Why Blog?

So, on the main page of this blog I break down the “Living Not Loathing” definition and what it means to me, but that was just a summary. If you haven’t read it yet go back, read it and then finish this so that everything makes sense. I’d hate to be repetitive here, that’s annoying.

I’m not going to give you my life story -although I would with no shame- but I am going to explain a little more in depth on how the decision to live my life instead of loathing it really changed my reality. So, it started during my senior year of college when I was newly single and all of a sudden I got this travel bug. One night I decided I was going to plan a trip to Los Angeles, California with my friends and I immediately started planning. I made an itinerary of things we should do, what city we would stay in while we were there, what restaurants we needed to go to, and places we HAD to visit. The trip was unforgettable to say the least, thanks to me *hair flip*. But then I realized “waiittttt a second…you planned a trip to a city and looked for all the local spots and places you could go while you were there but you also live in a popular city.” I live where people vacation. MILLIONS of people travel to Miami, Florida and I had no idea why ( figuratively, stay with me) Yeah, duh, people come to Miami for South Beach BUT WHAT ELSE IS HERE.

How dare I live in a major tourist destination and neglect to explore it! I put so much energy in traveling across the country to explore another city and I hadn’t even attempted to explore a city I claimed to love so much (It’s not my hometown, but Miami is a gem). Sure, I was studying in college but let’s be real, you can get A’s and still do social things you enjoy. I didn’t explore. I didn't know the true value of the city beyond the glitz and glam. I went to the same restaurants I had back home which is absolutely boring. The only problem was, I didn’t know I was being boring at the time. I created relationships with people who made mundane, minimal effort activities seem acceptable and I depended on their presence instead of realizing that I could experience the city on my own. With that being said, WAKE UP and say no to boys. Just kidding. But most definitely say no to people who don’t propel you to fulfill your social, educational, and professional goals. And yes, social goals are significant because it makes you more well-rounded as an individual. I would’ve never went to so many new places with the same individuals that were apart of my core social circle years ago. So when people say “not everyone can go where you’re going” trust me, I know first hand that this is an accurate statement.

I could go on for dayssss, but I said all that to say, explore your city, explore your small town, explore your county and figure out why anyone would want to visit there. There’s a reason, and it's not always the most advertised destinations. There’s so many places waiting for you to experience them. There’s so many amazing people waiting to meet you and more importantly ADVENTURE IS WAITING FOR YOU! Sure, you may not have the money to buy plane tickets, and go to a new city every month but honey, your perspective is alllllll wrong! That’s not the only thing that deems something an adventure. Going to a new restaurant, trying a new dish that you wouldn’t normally get, trying a new drink, or going to the bakery down the street even though you’ve passed it a million times and you already have a favorite bakery. Those are all adventurous acts. So, when I say “adventurous” I don’t mean skydiving every weekend and hiking up mountains every day (although that would be cool) I'm referring to your willingness to try new things and take your experiences into your own hands. If you can’t think of the last time you did something for the first time, you’re not truly living and taking advantage of the only life you get to have. So, get out there! JUST DO IT. GET OUT OF YOUR BOX. Get out of your everyday routine and omg plz stop being so boring. (said that a few times, make it stick in your mind this time) Everyday doesn’t need to be a party but it also doesn’t need to be like the previous day or week. Listen, your comfort zone will kill you.

And one last thing! My writing style will include sarcasm, jokes, and wit. My goal is to write posts that allow you to get a sense of my personality so that the posts come to life instead of only being informative.